Student Lucy Verdier provides an insight into her experience of trying to settle into her residence at Exeter and the things she tried before requesting a room move.
Moving into halls is a unique experience for everyone. Some hit it off with their flatmates straight away, but for others, the process is not so smooth. To anyone struggling to settle into halls, you’re far from alone!
As an excitable and eager Fresher, I was keen to bond with my flat immediately, knocking on neighbours’ doors and joining group outings. But unfortunately, it soon became clear that I would have to look beyond my hall to find my tribe.
After meeting new people through societies and my course, I tried to accept my lack of hall-based friends. However, living in a catered hall meant walking to the dining hall alone whilst others came in big, loud groups. This was tough. Whilst every other aspect of my uni life was going well, my hall didn’t feel like home.
Yet, I tried my very best to stick it out: I socialised at meals, focused on friendships outside of halls, and threw myself into societies and academics. But by early December, after much deliberation, I contacted the SID desk requesting to move halls.
Three days later, I was moving my things into a brand new room, in a brand new hall, with brand new flatmates.
My biggest concern about moving halls was the people I would be living with. Would I like them? Would they be welcoming? Fortunately, my new flatmates met me with warm smiles, empty kitchen cupboards for me to put my things in, and an invitation to a movie night in the common area. I knew immediately that moving had been the right choice, and my new hall would feel like home in no time.
So, it worked for me. But I encourage you to think long and hard about whether moving halls will solve your issue. Are you just homesick and need a few weeks to get settled? Have you properly got to know your flatmates? Most friendships do not bloom overnight, and it’s important to give yourself time to get to know your flatmates and neighbours. Moving all of your things and starting afresh is a hassle, but if your living situation starts to negatively impact your wellbeing, it’s time to take action.
If you decide to move halls, here is some key information and advice:
- Your first step is to contact the SID desk. You can do this via iExeter by clicking on the ‘Help and Support’ tile, then the ‘SID enquiries’ tab
- Room options may be limited. You might be willing to accept any room, or choose to enquire again in a week or so.
- There is a £50 moving fee
- You will need to move your things yourself – perhaps friends or family can help you
- The grass is not always greener: prepare for challenges at your new flat too. You likely won’t get on with everyone – this is a part of life!
I hope an insight into my experience helps you in deciding whether or not to move halls. It is a big change, especially if it’s later in the year, but ultimately your happiness comes first. Prioritise your wellbeing, and you can’t go too far wrong.